People always tell us the importance of sabr and that we need to more patient but how exactly do we do we go about doing that?
In dealing with people, I’ve found the the best way to gain more patience is to consciously prep your mind every morning with the assumption that people will annoy you, interrupt you, and steal your time.
It becomes difficult to tame your emotions when these things happen unexpectedly but if you are prepared to face them why would you be upset when it they actually happened? And imagine how great of a day you’d have if you expected things to go wrong but they didn’t.
This article will help you fight against your emotions and how to exercise more control by enabling you to see the logical side as to why patience (sabr) is always the answer.
“One, who adopts patience, will never be deprived of success though it may take a long time to reach him” Imam Ali (RA). 
Imam Ali also reported, The Messenger of Allah (saws) as saying, “Sabr
(precise meaning being “perseverance” or “persistence”) is of three kinds: Sabr at the time of affliction, Sabr in regard to obedience, and Sabr in regard to disobedience (of Allah). And the third one is superior to the first two kinds.” 
The Truth About Sabr
Sabr is a skill that needs to be practiced consistently in order to develop mastery in it. Having Sabr will be the root of your success in this world and the world after. Lacking it will be catastrophic. Part of having Sabr is being patient.
It is through patience you avoid hasty decisions that you will later regret causing things to be worse off.
Patience can be the deciding factor between achieving what you set out for or not. We live in a world where this trait that is required now more than ever.
Everything is becoming short circuited, our brains our being trained to expect things instantaneously. Amazon packages come in 1-2 days, we expect immediate feedback on our phones whenever we post a picture, comment, status, or video.
But the big wins in life will not come from a click of a button like we are trained to expect. It comes from intensive labor day in and day out. It comes putting belief in Allah.
Changing Your Way Of Thinking About Sabr
When it comes to Islam and our faith we believe this life is temporary. This requires a different way of operating then we show through our actions.
The challenge of this life is based on short-term gains and rewards.
It’s a tough balance, but sometimes we just need to take a second to stop and reflect, and calibrate what the purpose of our life is and not get caught up with the trivialities.
Imam Ali had said “Under the influence of inordinate cravings, they commit sins in quick succession and keep on postponing repentance. Calamities and adversities make them give up the distinguished characteristics of Muslims (patience, hope in future and work for improvement of circumstances). They advise people with narration’s of events and facts but do not take any lesson from them. They are good at preachings but bad at practice, therefore they always talk of lofty deeds but their actions belie their words” 
Sometimes the way we act in our daily lives are incongruent with our beliefs. It’s important not to fool yourself between what we do and what we believe.
Imam Ali (RA) also mentions how if you exhibit fretfulness, irritation, and despair in calamities, then your patience and your exertions are wasted.
Allah rewards those who are patient. It helps to realize when facing a difficult situation to not shy away. Embrace it head-on. Learn to get excited because you have been given an opportunity to exercise patience and sabr.
Think of adversity as an opportunity to rank higher in good deeds. It is test of your character and will. This is an easy but powerful method to change your way of thinking to help you get through the tough times.
We will now cover certain Duas you can recite as a way to remember Allah in times where you feel tested.
Dua For Patience
TRANSLITERATION: Rabbana afrigh Aaalayna sabran watawaffana muslimeen
TRANSLATION: Our Lord, pour upon us patience and let us die as Muslims [in submission to You].
Best Time To Recite This Dua – To seek Allah’s help when faced with fear and loss, with patient prayers and perseverance for Allah. Allah is with those who are patient, more specifically during calamity and suffering.
In Surah Al-Baqarah verse 155-156 Allah says:
“And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient, Those are the ones upon whom are blessings from their Lord and mercy. And it is those who are the [rightly] guided”
TRANSLITERATION rabbana afrigh AAalayna sabranwathabbit aqdamana wansurnaAAala alqawmi alkafireen
TRANSLATION Our Lord, pour upon us patience and plant firmly our feet and give us victory over the disbelieving people.
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Quran And Hadith on Virtues of Patience
In Surah An-Nahl there is a powerful verse where Allah tells the prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, on the virtues of being patient, merciful and on how to deal with anxiety.
And if you punish [an enemy, O believers], punish with an equivalent of that with which you were harmed. But if you are patient – it is better for those who are patient. And be patient, [O Muhammad], and your patience is not but through Allah. And do not grieve over them and do not be in distress over what they conspire. (16:126-127)
This verse carries the same lessons which teaches “Resentment and anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”.
Allah says, “it is better to be patient” so take a moral high ground and be forgiving and to not “grieve over them and be in distress”. In other words to move on with your life. This will reduce and burden or stress you may feel.
In the following Hadith narrated by Narrated Salim Abu An-Nadr. The Prophet would avoid enemy in battle. He advises to Pray to Allah and do everything you can to avoid conflict. Only engage when you are forced to.
Do not wish to face the enemy (in a battle) and ask Allah to save you (from calamities) but if you should face the enemy, then be patient and let it be known to you that Paradise is under the shades of swords.” 
Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri:
Some Ansari persons asked for (something) from Allah’s Apostle (Peace be upon him) and he gave them. They again asked him for (something) and he again gave them. And then they asked him and he gave them again till all that was with him finished. And then he said “If I had anything. I would not keep it away from you. (Remember) Whoever abstains from asking others, Allah will make him contented, and whoever tries to make himself self-sufficient, Allah will make him self-sufficient. And whoever remains patient, Allah will make him patient. Nobody can be given a blessing better and greater than patience.” 
Narrated Anas: The Prophet said, “The real patience is at the first stroke of a calamity.” 
Other Useful Duas:
The next hadith is a reminder that it is easy to be thankful and grateful to Allah when you have everything. The real challenge is when you’re deprived and you still keep the same faith and do not question his will.
Narrated Anas bin Malik: I heard Allah’s Apostle saying, “Allah said, ‘If I deprive my slave of his two beloved things (i.e., his eyes) and he remains patient, I will let him enter Paradise in compensation for them.” 
Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah’s Messenger (saws) said, “If Allah wants to do good to somebody, He afflicts him with trials.” 
We need to practice patience and sabr now more than ever. Our society and generation are getting used to immediate gratification and short-term thinking. This is not the Islamic way to approach things.
We know that whatever happens in this life is decreed by Allah and we can not change that. Being patient will help us overcome our challenges and lead to a life where we are most satisfied. Inshallah Allah (swt) will enable us to endure with patience and perseverance.
It helps to realize when you are facing a difficult situation to embrace it head-on. Welcome the challenge. Get excited since you are now given a chance to exercise patience and sabr. Recognize this as opportunity to rank higher in good deeds as Allah loves those who remember him in trying times.
 [Al-Kulayni, al‑Kafi, vol. 2, bab al‑Sabr, hadith # 15]
 Sahih al-Bukhari 2965, 2966 In-book reference : Book 56, Hadith 175
 Sahih al-Bukhari Book 24 Hadith 548
 Sahih al-Bukhari Book 23 Hadith 389
 Sahih al-Bukhari 5653
 Sahih al-Bukhari 5645 In-book reference : Book 75, Hadith 5